Once a week. That’s the average amount that married couples have sex. This equates to approximately 60 times per year, which is actually slightly more sex than unmarried people are having. When it comes to love making, certain things go a long way. Confidence, comfort, and libido all play a role in how much sex you’re having and if it’s enjoyable. But what if your sex drive is lacking? Whether you’re a man suffering from erectile dysfunction or a female entering menopause, so many different factors can kill your libido. But there’s hope! Here are a few ways you can easily boost your sex drive and your average number of sexual encounters per week to more than one.
1. Change Your Diet
The foods you put in your body have everything to do with how it performs. And this includes your sexual performance. While there are many foods that act as aphrodisiacs and may boost your sex drive, there are others that can bring things to a halt.
Foods and drink to avoid include:
- Diet soda
- Microwave popcorn
- Deli meat
- Bottled water
Some of these items are shocking. Especially the healthier ones like shrimp, edamame, strawberries, and especially bottled water! But all of these foods and drinks contain ingredients that don’t mix well with your sex drive. And just for the record, it’s the plastic bottle that is the culprit for the last item in this list, not the water itself. BPA (Bisphenol A), which is found in many plastic bottles and containers, can actually cause infertility in both men and women.
While you should avoid these foods, there are others that you should add to your dinner plate if you’re looking to boost your libido. These include, but are not limited to:
- Walnuts and almonds
Of course, different food affect people in different ways. Simply eating these foods isn’t guaranteed to transform your sex life, but some of these foods include feel-good ingredients that provide zinc and other important ingredients for a healthy sex drive.
It’ also important to eliminate processed foods from your diet if you’re looking to boost your libido. Think of processed foods as sucking all of the vital minerals, nutrients, and vitamins from whole foods. It’s these ingredients that help you maintain a healthy sex drive. When processed foods eliminate these important materials, your body isn’t getting the nutrients it needs to keep you active in the bedroom. Not to mention, eating too many processed foods can take its toll on your overall health and lead to weight gain, compromising your self-confidence.
2. Incorporate Herbal and Natural Supplements
When you aren’t able to get all the necessary nutrients you need from the foods you eat, supplements can work wonders for boosting your levels and your libido. Natural herbs are easy to incorporate into your diet and can actually add some ambience to a romantic evening.
Ingredients like basil and garlic are not only aromatic and stimulating, but actually offer other sexual benefits. Garlic, for example, contains allicin, which is known to increase blood flow. This can be especially helpful for men dealing with erectile dysfunction. Gingko is another popular herb used for many medicinal reasons. But a lesser-known benefit of this Chinese herb is the fact that it can treat antidepressant induced sexual dysfunction. This is a condition of sexual dysfunction brought on by the use of antidepressant medications.
Another natural supplement which has been coined as “nature’s Viagra” is an alkaloid found in the bark of the West African evergreen tree, known as yohimbine. Yohimbine bark may actually help men maintain a quality erection longer and comes in supplement form.
3. Confidence Boosters
Low sex drive isn’t always caused by a physical condition or reaction. Sometimes, it’s all in your head. This means that if you aren’t feeling confident, sexy, or attractive, you probably find it difficult to get “in the mood”. That’s because, especially for women, emotions play a big part in achieving sexual desire and satisfaction. Are you struggling with your weight or feeling less accomplished at work than usual? All of these external factors can negatively impact your sex drive. When you don’t feel good about yourself, you don’t feel the desire to be intimate. You also don’t consider yourself desirable to others.
So, one of the first steps to boosting sex drive is finding your inner confidence and letting it shine through. You can achieve this is many different ways including weight loss, a new wardrobe, new haircut or style, or a new job. Try setting attainable goals for yourself and do everything you can to reach them. This will leave you feeling accomplished, proud, and hopefully, sexually aroused!
4. Avoid Stress
Stress is a major mood killer. Both for you and your partner. When you are feeling mentally and physically stressed, your body can’t function properly and this includes getting and maintaining an erection or simply feeling sexually aroused. Stress causes feelings of depression, irritability, and fatigue, all mood killers for your libido. Stress causes a hormonal response in your body and it’s no secret that hormones control our feelings and emotions, including feelings of desire and sexuality. During this response, your body releases cortisol and although your body needs cortisol to function, too much of this hormone can suppress your sex drive. Reduce stress by participating in relaxing activities such as gardening or yoga. Try breathing exercises, meditation or mindfulness. It’s important to identify your stress triggers and then work to eliminate them from your life.
5. Maintain Healthy Relationships
Contrary to popular belief that many men can have sex without feelings, for both men and women, an emotional connection with their partner intensifies the pleasure of the experience. When you feel close to someone, you’re more willing to let down your guard, feel comfortable, and open about your sexuality. This boosts confidence and libido. Maintain open lines of communication with your partner about what you like and don’t like, how you’re feeling, and things you may want to try. Experimenting in the bedroom can also help spice things up. Try buying sexy lingerie, reading erotica or role playing. The possibilities are endless and the more adventurous you become, the more fun you’ll have!
Sex drive is about more than just finding a person you’re attracted to. Physical and psychological conditions can impact your ability to perform in the bedroom. Be honest with yourself about the feelings you’re experiencing. There are both medical and natural ways to help boost your libido and improve your sex life.
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