When you are too close to a painting you see lot of colors, life is the same way. It’s only when we step back that we see the true picture, the perfect beauty. Quoting Tupac,” Even though you are fed up, you got to keep your head up”. Therefore, passing through tough times in life can be easy. All you have to do is keep these 4 tips to help you get through the tough phase in your life.
- Letting go is not a weakness:
Imagine you hold a water bottle filled with water for a few minutes, what will happen. Apparently nothing. Imagine what if you hold it for a longer duration let’s say for few hours, eventually your arm will hurt. And what if you hold the bottle for 24 hours? Your arm would be practically paralyzed because of extreme pain. Notice the weight of the bottle did not change the whole time. The only thing that changed was how long you were holding it. The lesson from this situation is that the weight of the bottle represents our challenges, our problems, our worries, our anxiety, our uncertainty, the longer we hold them the more pain they will cause us. Forgiveness and the ability of letting go and the ability to rise above the challenges is such an important ability. We must learn how to accept the apologies that we never received. Holding any negative feeling for another individual will simply harm your own thinking.
- Fix what’s broken, don’t throw it away:
Once a couple was asked how they managed to stay together for 65 years. Their response was quite unique. They said we lived in a time where if something was broken we could fix it, we didn’t have to throw it away. A lot of problems would disappear if we stop talking about each other and started talking to each other. We all need to find someone who makes us want to change our life and not just our relationship status. It’s about finding someone who makes us want to be our best, with whom we can build an empire. You need to go out and find them.
- Build a life, not a resume:
A university professor started out his class by taking out a 2000rs note and asking the class how many wanted the note? Apparently 100 hands went up. He then crunched the note with his hand and asked how many wanted it now? Apparently all 100 hands went up. He then chucked the note on the floor. He screwed it with his shoe and then picked up the dirt covered note and asked how many of you want the note? Surprisingly all 100 hands were still up. He then said you have learnt an important lesson, No matter how much I crumpled the note, how much I scrunched it up, how many times it was trodden on, you still wanted it because it was worth two thousand rupees. So, you must have your value just like that note. No matter how many times life will tread on you, life will crumple you, you will always keep your value, that spark of bliss within you, of knowledge, and of eternity. That spark will never be taken away.
- Never stop learning:
Here is a story. Once Marcus Aurelius hired an assistant who would follow him as he roamed through the Roman Town Square. The only job of the assistant was to whisper ‘You are just a man’ in Marcus’s ear whenever he was praised. It is said that two things define us, our patience when we have nothing and our humility when we have everything. Very often the thing that keeps us from learning is our belief that we already know, that we already have knowledge. We already believe that we have the answer. That’s why it is said that judging is critical but observing can be educational. Therefore, I believe that we should never stop learning, as there are no horizons of knowledge.
