Many parents feel that yelling at their kids would make the latter stop their tantrums instantly. While this may be true, one cannot neglect the fact that yelling at children can have certain long term effects on their psychological and social development. Here are 5 long term effects yelling can have on your children.
Inhibits Self Confidence
A child who is frequently yelled at would find it difficult to value and love himself/herself and think of himself/herself as a worthy individual. This feeling will manifest itself in their hearts and minds as they grow, turning them into meek individuals incapable of making their own decisions or leading others. These children would also tend to become adults who would feel less impactful on the society, and start feeling stressed out or depressed over the same.
Children who are yelled at frequently tend to become fearful of loud voices. They would tend to shake, wince or hide away from individuals who shout at them, or have loud, booming voices. As such this fearful attitude would grow with them and make them too timid to handle conflicts and other difficult situations later on in their lives. Their timidity would also interfere with their ability to make friends or interact freely in social circles.
Instills Aggressive Behavior
In some cases, hollering at children can have a very negative impact on their behavior. Some children may actually feel that yelling at others would make them feel superior. These children then resort to yelling and hollering whenever they want something. They also tend to become aggressive in their behavior and start hitting, pushing and even biting others when they face a possible conflict with them.
Children who are yelled at frequently can with time, develop a mechanism by which they would tune out the shouting to defend themselves from its effects. This mechanism can grow with them, and can interfere with their concentration abilities in the later years. Children developing this mechanism would thus find it difficult to focus on anything for extended periods.
Every time you yell at your child, you are giving him/her the impression that he/she did something wrong, even if it may not be so. A child cannot possibly decipher the difference between a glass he broke and a bad day at your office. If you yell at him/her, he/she would hold himself/herself responsible. And that would create confusion in his/her minds as to what he/she would need to do in order to please you. Even if he/she thinks doing something would please you, the confusion of whether you would like it or not would stop him/her.
Yelling is not a way to make your children behave. It would have both short and long term psychological effects on them. So make it a point to help your kids learn what is right and wrong without yelling at them.