Women are mysterious creatures for many men. Men struggle to sexually arouse a woman. Some men are so ignorant about sex that they don’t even know that women also have orgasms let alone know how to get her into the mood for sex. There is another common misconception among some men that the process of sexual arousal is the same in both men and women. The following tips will help in arousing a women before the intercourse.
Give Her time to Get Into the Mood
It takes time to get a woman into the mood. A woman’s body is like the meat just taken out from a freezer and it takes time to heat it up. Most women don’t like to have sex directly without a brief warm up session. Foreplay is crucial and can be skipped only if she is already in a highly aroused state. A woman can be brought into the mood by kissing and touching the various parts of her body like neck, back, inner thighs, breasts, and belly button. You can then proceed to caress the more private areas of her body. But, remember to be gentle in the process lest you may end up physically hurting her in the process.
A little bit of dirty talking during the foreplay process too helps in getting her into the mood. There are no limits; all you have to do is to use some words that excite her. Select your words depending upon the preferences. Some women like forceful words while the others prefer romantic lyrics. But, ensure that you don’t use any derogatory words which may upset her mood in the process.
Set the Mood for Sex
Creating a conducive environment to sex is necessary if you want to get your partner into a certain mood. Make your bedroom look good by putting attractive paintings and good furniture. Never keep unnecessary things in your bedroom like laundry which will make it dirty and unattractive. Install dimmers on the overhead lights of your bedroom and avoid fluorescent lights as they may spoil the mood and cause headache and fatigue. Other things which can help in setting her mood for sex are romantic music, soft fabrics, sex toys and porn magazines. You can also stretch your imagination to other rooms in your home like living room or kitchen if you prefer to make love in those places too.
Get yourself Familiar with a Woman’s Hot Spots
Know and remember your women’s hot spots like clitoris, G-Spot and other pleasure places. This is considered to be quiet important as they help in getting her to reach orgasm. Clitoris is like the penis of a woman and is located where the lips of vagina meet. G-Spot is located some where between 2 to three inches from the opening of her vagina. Unlike the clitoris, locating a G-Spot is tricky as it differs from one woman to the other. Other spots which should not be forgotten are her neck, inner thighs, nipples, ears etc.
Engage in Two-way Communication
Engaging in two-way communication will help in understanding her tastes and preferences better. Some couples feel embarrassed to talk openly about sex as they think that this will hurt the egos of others. Woman also think that they will be ridiculed if they talk openly about sex in the bed. Encourage two communication and view it as her attempt to please you. Two-way communication increases intimacy between the couple which can make the sexual experience great.
Build Sexual Tension
Build sexual tension by pushing and pulling her up and down, back and forward, and start and stop. Women get turned up by this pattern as it slowly builds anticipation about love making. This builds the feeling of your woman desiring sex without knowing what or when it might happen. Women get sexually aroused if you can build tension in intervals. This can be achieved by taking two steps forward and one step backward. Kiss and cuddle her, stop and then start again. Go a little further than the previous time when ever you start and go.
Understand the Importance of Emotional Intimacy
Emotional intimacy is different from sexual intimacy and is very important in arousing your female partner. Emotional intimacy helps in understanding each other better and accept each other for who they are. The most important tip to increase emotional intimacy is to maintain eye contact during talking. Touching a woman not just with the sexual intention will also help in making her feel important. Another important tip is to appreciate her for all contribution in improving the relationship. Encourage her to search and learn things like love making positions that can improve her pleasure both sexually and emotionally.
A fact least understood by many men is that most of the women love oral sex. Women like oral sex because it gives as much pleasure for a woman as it does to a man. But, you should give oral sex in a very gentle way to a woman. Start oral sex by giving light touches to her inner thighs using your lips. Then, slowly move towards her vagina and use your tongue to massage the external area of it in an up and down-motion for some time. Using your hands for massaging her clitoris during oral sex will add to the pleasure.
All Women are not the Same
The last and most important tip to be remembered by men is that all women are not the same. You may learn lot of love making techniques by reading sex guides. Do remember to understand her sexuality before you start using all the newly learned techniques on her. All women don’t respond similarly to a particular type of sexual simulation. You may need to customize the technique to suit your woman. For this you have to observe her body language and other delicate signals like rapid breathing, moaning, reddish hot skin etc. Using a technique for sexual simulation in the same way for all types of women might end up in a disaster.